Moving in Together! Are you ready?

Dating, men and living are very complicated things. Putting those three things together and moving in with someone is a situation that will either make your relationship a dreamy romantic bliss (you know a serious future, wedding bells, Sunday cuddles - my current situation) or it will be the turning point in your relationship where everything crashes and burns at your feet (constant fights, anxiety, worry, and a pure longing for the person you are living with the just fuck off - historical situation, not pleasant!).

Before you move in with that special someone you need to consider a variety of things to ensure you are BOTH ready for that next stage.

Why? Is a big question you should always ask yourself before making a change.Why do you want to live with him? Why will it make your relationship better? Are you doing this because all of your friends are? Are you ready? Why are you with that person?

It is a horrible thought but before you make a decision like moving in you need to look at the relationship entirely, evaluate if the relationship is working and one that you want to be in. Looking at your relationship this harsh will prepare you for the realities which are to come and ensure that you are with the right person.

Before you are ready to make any sort of commitment you need to have a strong foundation with him. Be in a relationship that you feel safe and secure in. If you do not feel safe or secure in a relationship - do not stay in it, you deserve better.

Both people in the relationship need to trust, respect and love each other before you can ever consider a commitment. Without this anything you both decide to do together will only end in heartbreak.

Only ever move in with him if there is no pressure on either of you. You both need to be on the same page. If you have someone who isn't fully invested in a relationship then you add another level to that of living together you will only force that person to become more distant. Which leads into another point, moving in with him just like having a baby will not FIX your relationship.

Adding another element to a relationship like living together when you are already having problems will just cause problems.

Before you move in together make sure you have had a major disagreement or fight with your man and survived it. This will tell you a lot about how each other operate. How you deal with conflict resolution could be completely different to how he does.

This will show you how well you communicate together. It will show you how you can or can't work through life's tough times together.

Communicate, be open, fix all of your issues first then if everything is working well look at options. A good thing we did before we moved in together was simulated living together first, we stayed with each other every night and understood what it was like to constantly be in each others spaces. It will show you early on before you pay through the roof for a bond if you are ready or not.

Before I moved in with Tyler we sat down and had an open discussion about each others financial state.

We discussed:

This created a platform where we could have an honest conversation and be on the same page before we decided to make the move.

This is an essential part of deciding to live with someone. The majority of fights in a relationship relate to money, so if you want it to work have the talk first.

When it comes to living with him I have discovered the following things:

At the end of the day no matter what advice I provide you here you will do what you want to do. The only thing I advise is if it goes wrong learn from it, don't let it make you bitter for the right person who comes along down the track. Living with someone you love is the greatest thing you can experience if you do it right.

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